crazy, stupid, cancer...JUST?!?
this entry is brief (i hope) & actually overdue but oh well...life has been a bit hectic...to say the least! after many months of waiting patiently, i was finally able to see what has now become one of my favorite movies...Crazy, Stupid Love...it was ALL that I hoped it would be! Disclaimer if you haven't seen the movie beware I will talk about it here!
i've written many times of what the outside perception is of DIVORCE. how it's something unimportant, something that is menial, something that is trivial, something normal & natural & well kind've at times a freedom of sorts.
the more i live in my shoes of a divorcee i grow accustomed to it but i still don't "like" it. i still don't feel it as a "normal" process of life. i still don't feel it as a distant thing. and i certainly don't see it as a "freedom".
while i watched the movie...though many times i laughed...others i weeped inside. one of the parts of the movie that caught my attention the most, clearly illustrated what i have been writing about this whole time...perceptions...
as steve carrell arrived to his office disraught after learning that his wife wants a DIVORCE...he is out of sorts at work. his collegues know something is going on but nobody knows what. they assume based on his demeanor & affect that whatever it is MUST be really bad. finally his boss approaches him to pass along the "im sorry speech" only that he didn't really know what he was providing his condolences for. when the boss finds out that what he (steve carrell) is so distressed about is...his impending DIVORCE.
what happens next is the part that best reflects this point...the boss who now learns that his employee is MISERABLE because of his impending DIVORCE says to him "oh, you're getting a DIVORCE...i thought you had CANCER or something" he then proceeded to alert the entire office "its ok everyone, he's just going through a DIVORCE...it'll be fine"! (those were not the exact words BUT you get the point)
is LOVE stupid? is it CRAZY? yes it quite possibly is but i also know that DIVORCE is NOT some menial, unimportant, insignificant thing! the more i speak to people who have gone through a DIVORCE no matter the circumstances describe it as one of the most painful & horrible experiences of their life! And yes it will be FINE but it will take ALOT of TIME to make that person or people whole again. it is NOT a JUST DIVORCE!
highly recommend this movie to anyone who is contemplating LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS & more importantly MARRIAGE!
i've written many times of what the outside perception is of DIVORCE. how it's something unimportant, something that is menial, something that is trivial, something normal & natural & well kind've at times a freedom of sorts.
the more i live in my shoes of a divorcee i grow accustomed to it but i still don't "like" it. i still don't feel it as a "normal" process of life. i still don't feel it as a distant thing. and i certainly don't see it as a "freedom".
while i watched the movie...though many times i laughed...others i weeped inside. one of the parts of the movie that caught my attention the most, clearly illustrated what i have been writing about this whole time...perceptions...
as steve carrell arrived to his office disraught after learning that his wife wants a DIVORCE...he is out of sorts at work. his collegues know something is going on but nobody knows what. they assume based on his demeanor & affect that whatever it is MUST be really bad. finally his boss approaches him to pass along the "im sorry speech" only that he didn't really know what he was providing his condolences for. when the boss finds out that what he (steve carrell) is so distressed about is...his impending DIVORCE.
what happens next is the part that best reflects this point...the boss who now learns that his employee is MISERABLE because of his impending DIVORCE says to him "oh, you're getting a DIVORCE...i thought you had CANCER or something" he then proceeded to alert the entire office "its ok everyone, he's just going through a DIVORCE...it'll be fine"! (those were not the exact words BUT you get the point)
is LOVE stupid? is it CRAZY? yes it quite possibly is but i also know that DIVORCE is NOT some menial, unimportant, insignificant thing! the more i speak to people who have gone through a DIVORCE no matter the circumstances describe it as one of the most painful & horrible experiences of their life! And yes it will be FINE but it will take ALOT of TIME to make that person or people whole again. it is NOT a JUST DIVORCE!
highly recommend this movie to anyone who is contemplating LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS & more importantly MARRIAGE!
finally could read this post... since we watched the movie last night! love ya girl!
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